Life With Cindypounds

If you’re co-parenting with a narcissist, you already know is not a walk in the park. Is it the unending unhealthy arguments? or the constant stress? The unfair burden? and the way your children feel like they are stuck in deep mire?  Picture this scenario and I know you don't want to lose your sanity.  When I Learned about narcissistic personality disorder and how they operate, I tried to warn people around me not to fall into the trap. I even warned someone very close to me not to get entangled with her Fiance. I could see it clearly he was screaming "I am a narcissist" in his behavior. She ignored the red flags and married him anyway. Now the mask is off, and it's cost her peace of mind.   WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER IGNORE THE RED FLAGS. Everything a narcissist does is calculated and has a purpose. That’s why you should never ignore red flags in the early stages. Hold them accountable, keep your boundaries firm or walk away graciously. When something feels unreal, ...

 Narcissism is a personality trait that often goes unnoticed until a clinical diagnosis is made.  Narcissists are habitual, pathological liars who find satisfaction in disrupting peace.  At first, they don’t reveal how manipulative they really are. They mirror your energy and appear to be the sweetest person you’ve ever met. But once you let your guard down, the mask falls off. They become abusive, rude, and arrogant  leaving you confused: "Is this the same person who was so kind to me? What changed? Nothing changed. They simply couldn’t keep up the act. Being kind and thoughtful isn’t who they are. The “love bombing” stage is just a facade "a way to lure you into their cycle of toxicity and drama". You end up begging them to stop hurting you, because they lack empathy. Instead of stopping, they intensify the bullying, trigger you, and gaslight you by playing the victim. When you challenge their hypocrisy and wickedness, "when no one is watching, they will change th...

It’s perfectly okay to say no without being guilt-tripped. I know for some of us, saying no feels like a trauma response like when you were little, saying no or expressing your feelings felt like a death penalty.  But if you can’t say no, you leave yourself vulnerable, and that makes you an easy target for leeches and abusers. That’s why self-awareness and emotional intelligence matter, and why healthy boundaries matter even more. You should learn to say no unashamedly and unapologetically as long as you’re not being condescending. I’m not saying don’t help anyone. Help when it’s your choice, when it won’t inconvenience you, not because someone won’t take no for an answer or because they’re only using you. A healthy, non-toxic person will understand that "You're busy and be patient. While a toxic person will give you the silent treatment or act entitled. When I learned to protect my boundaries, saying no became easy. I say it chin up high. It’s not easy to manipulate me anymor...

 The hardest life lesson I learned changed my perspective on life. I may be right or wrong, but why do good people suffer the most? I believe when you don’t have strong boundaries when you’re a people-pleaser and don’t know when to say “enough” or stand up for yourself, especially when you’re being exploited, bullied, ridiculed, or abused you will end up living with painful stories. The worst betrayal comes from our loved ones. With enemies, you’re wary; you eat with a long spoon. But with a loved one, you don’t see it coming. Just like Julius Caesar, who survived multiple stabs from his cabinet members but died from the one stab from Brutus, his trusted friend  that’s the betrayal you can’t bear. It feels like an unexplainable, sharp pain when you’d go to the moon and back for people, and they can’t even meet you halfway. I never knew that being overly empathetic could expose me to people who want to drain me nonstop, unprovoked, because they’re insatiable. I’ve been in a sit...

 Life With Cindy was born out of my life experiences. I was in a dark place, feeling caged as if life was slipping away from me for years. I didn’t know how to navigate it I felt stuck, purposeless, and numb. But in that dilemma, I discovered that writing brings succor to my soul. Then my friend and soul sister Winnie came along and encouraged me. In that moment I felt a shift; I became eager to show the world that I’m a shiny star, not meant to languish in the dark. My spark and zeal came back to life. This is a reminder that we need good friends to make life easier.  Me, myself, and I make up Cindy. One thing that always stands out about me is that I can make lemonade from lemons. Here are a few things you probably didn’t know about me: I’m thoughtful, I value respect, I’m loyal, I’m family-oriented, I’m empathetic, and I’m easygoing. my favorite food is yam, and my favorite color is black. The hardest life lesson I’ve learned is betrayal from people I’d take a bullet for, w...

​ Hey fam, welcome to Life With Cindy!  I’m the face behind the blog. I created this blog out of my love for storytelling, and if you’re here for real relatable content, you’re in the right place, it promises to be a safe zone for all and sundry.  Here I’ll share my daily life, real stories, relationship ups and downs, and the lessons I’ve learned over the years that shaped the way I think.  Expect juicy stories, helpful tips, plenty of photos, and support for anyone navigating life or starting afresh. Stick around, hit the Follow button, drop a comment, AndTell me what you’d like to see next! Thank you.